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Fayrouz Tayseer
Hate is a big word. I truly believe in order to hate someone; that someone must have done something major, that negatively affected your life – hence causing you to hate that person.
Therefore, it is not ok to hate his female friends unless they have done something really terrible to you or they have been rude to you. But keep in mind, that the way his friends treat you is his responsibility. If they know how important you are to him and how he respects you they will treat you with respect. So, I believe there is no need to hate them without justification - otherwise this will be considered a little psychotic!
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Riham Bader
Well, I entirely respect the fact that my significant other needs to spend time with his friends - but I don’t think I should have to tolerate their interference within my personal life, and quite frankly - that’s what normally happens. At this point I will never like them as they will add uncertainty, and conflict between us. I believe ‘his female friends’ should not be given a chance to develop their friendship in the wrong way, meaning; to share approval and disapproval - life will become apprehensive and consequently the result will be further confusion, in addition to an uncalled for case of jealousy. Needless to mention, sometimes men need to talk unreservedly with other women, other women who won’t condemn his opinion. It is also important to understand that not everyone may share expectations regarding how people should behave. So, it is quite possible that my significant other will not see anything wrong with contacting female friends when he was in need of someone to talk to. But the point is that he might conceal it from me; in this case I won't regard his behavior above suspicion. What if he shares secrets with her?
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Dahlia Nassar
My husband is a dentist, so I’ve got female patients as well as female friends to contend with… I truly can’t say I’ve ever hated any of his lady friends – needless to say, but I can’t imagine him ever putting me in an uncomfortable position by even remotely feeding my feminine insecurities. True, we’ve discussed the issue, but he clearly said; if something didn’t feel right, to let him know and he’d address whatever concerns I had. We both have friends of the opposite gender, and just as I respect my boundaries – so does he… Whatever the scenario, communication and honesty are both key in maintaining trust. However, among my circle of friends. I’ve seen a good relationship turn bad; time and time again, the gloomy consequences were somehow associated to “HER” hating “HIS” friends…. In my opinion, a spouse should never be forced to choose between the significant other or the friends – and true friends will never compel you to make that choice either – any partner who expects this is controlling, insecure and neurotic. Too often relationships fail because someone is unhappy and blames their partner for making them that way. Your life is ONLY under your control. Keep reminding yourself you are GOOD ENOUGH to have a happy life and a healthy relationship. Life’s just one immense chain of infinite choices ‘everlasting bliss, never-ending sorrows’ & everything in between… "Life is what you make it. Always has been, always will be"…
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Lilian Wagdy
Well that depends. First off, I believe in fairness and hate double standards. So if I have male friends that I see from time to time I shouldn't make a big deal about him having a similar relationship with a female. I do think that hate is a strong word and in the extreme cases, a slight jealousy of him spending time with another woman is acceptable. But hate is a very strong emotion
even if I know for sure that one of his female friends has feelings for him. The thing is, it's not what other people want from him or the way they may feel about him, it's how he feels about them and how he develops his relationship with them. The ball is in his court!
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Gihan El Shennawy
No, it's not ok to hate his girlfriends. Actually I see it very healthy that my husband keeps his girlfriends, at least he will appreciate what he has:) saying so, doesn't in any way mean that I would stay in the dark; as long as we are sharing everything together I see that there won't be a problem if he has girl friends who could be mine as well.
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Radwa Moussa
The way I look at it, the word ‘hate’ is very weak! And I don’t like to be weak! Especially, if I’m competing with another sista ;). Very simple, given the fact I will never have my male friends back the way they were – thanks to you of course and to the overrated feelings from a man to a man, and given that we all became one big happy family, my friends are your friend’s fiasco. So here we go, I have a tactic. If I like her, I let her in, befriend her and destroy their friendship (neeeyaaahhhaaaaaa). If I don’t, then BANG she is doomed. For some unknown reason, we were brought up assuming that friendship between girls and boys is a phase – and note I didn’t say men and women, it's just girls and boys, as it’s a given that no married woman can have a male friend, or no married man can have a female friend unless she is single and his wife knows he is hitting on her. Getting down on basis here; confiding in one another and having these heart to heart conversations, I absolutely have no problem with. If he had friends that I was introduced to and knew what kind of bond they had, I will deal with it, appreciate it and definitely set my cool rules of – let me always be in the picture. Yet, any one that follows my existence has to have another name; coworker/colleague/ client/ friend’s sister/ friend’s wife…etc) but your own friend, calling and checking one each other, texting we he2 we me2 we keda. Simply NO! The other side of my thoughts; is not losing my own friends, by actually having them become part of our friends group, I consider it out of mere respect that he has to be informed about reasons of my communication with them, their news…etc – and again of course we all know he is more concerned about single ones, as married ones for some reason are members in his clubJ. So it’s not because I ‘HAVE’ to, yet because I ‘WANT’ to. A smart, sexy, loving woman is the one who becomes her partner’s best friend, female existence and confiding source. Once the silly female instinct hits in the nagging direction - be sure you’ve lost him! On the other hand, I am always pursuing playing it cool, and getting my defense mechanism of (na3am ya habibty fy 7aga???) Only when needed. What are we to do tayeb? Nagging and jealousy comes with our
manual, so at least we should take credit for knowing they are there and trying to control them and direct them healthy.
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